From here, we'll also say that you are sailing around the world to different major countries. Start off in the US with New York(you start off in California), go to Brazil, head over to India, hit up Japan, down to Australia, and then back again to the good ol' states.
Now one might say that this would be an amazing, life-long, and intense journey. You are correct. To an extent. But not only is it pleasurable to experience, it poses quite a bit of a challenge: Everything in between.
To elaborate more on this, think about it. You're not just going to be able to smoothely sail around the world with ease. There will be massive gusts of wind, weather changes, hostile water creatures such as sharks, modern day pirates where they could potentially either rob you or murder you, or possibly you run out of supplies and are relying on something to reach out to another to get help.
Through all of this, the element of adversity surrounds you. You go through these trials not only to learn, but they bring out the best in yourself. Given, when one is put up against the most difficult of odds, 1 of 2 things happen: You either persevere and thrive successfully through it or fail miserably, crashing and struggling to survive.
Everyone deals with adversity. This whole theme has stuck to me at this point in my life. I'm dealing with so many things right now it's almost overwhelming. To stay out of the cliche' thing of complaining about all of my problems, it will be agreed that I don't lead a perfect life. So to conclude from this statement, we can say that also it is affecting a huge part of my life.
I'm going through the typical obstacles of adversity right now. School, jobless, family, mental health, motivation, girls, and everything else stacked on top of that. But one of the things that irks me the most out of all of these is the intervention of my own life.
Nothing irks me more than telling me that I have a problem and I need to fix it or I'll have it forever. Things should be a choice, not a demand. If it was demanded that I improve my social skills, then I'm more likely to not care to improve my skills. If I naturally come into my own being and improve myself, that's completely different.
The only person in your own lives that can take charge in any given situation is you. You're the one who calls the shots. You're your own hero. You make your own downfall. You control your own destiny. Let no one ever tell you any different.
This post isn't in any resentment towards my friend, but as a way of expressing my understanding. He claims I have a social anxiety disorder, I'm in denile, and it isn't laziness. I hate to break it to him, but he's wrong on all three counts. I care about my good pal very much, but it's sometimes I don't want to be labeled. That I need help or not. Let me figure out things on my own.
I honestly believe he has a disorder. He cares way too much and hypercritically of others, including myself. It's not a bad thing, but he needs to take a supportive and defensive approach to things. After all, it's much better to put out a fire instead of soaking more gasoline to it.(Unless you're just a natural pyro)
Later today, I'm going to be put through a social experiment. Just to stupidly prove to him I'm capable of talking to anyone I dare wish to and that I don't have a social disorder. And he's dead wrong. I just choose not to talk to anyone. It's my own (excuse my language) damn choice. He won't ever understand, to this point, but he better get ready to be wrong. Because it's going to happen.
I can be quite stubborn myself, but on a positive note, say I have this "disorder" he so diagnoses(because he has certification to say I have one? Not at all. He's just going based off information gathered on the interwebs) then the best I can do is improve constantly, at my own discretion.
This is my biggest curse. I somehow grab the attention of too good of friends. And it can be my downfall. On rare occasions, I grab the attention of those friends that care way too much for my own well being, instead of just being my friend and generally be supportive. I don't want to be a lab rat in an experiment. I want to be treated as an equal and I demand the same respect as anyone else would at all times.
Here's a cool exercise to try out: Close your eyes.Imagine yourself in your most triumphant moment. Whether it be graduating school, getting a job,or even getting that special someone you had your eye on. Memorize every detail the best you can in that scenario. Ok now from that point on, work on making that goal a reality.
From my studies in my psychology class, the more likely we are to accept our own positive or negative imaginations, the more likely we are to make the necessary actions to make them come true.
If adversity has taught me anything, it's this: don't ever, ever, ever, EVER, give up on your goals or dreams in life. You, yourself, has the potential to do anything in this world that God created. Anyone can become President, and lead the world into a golden age of peace and prosperity. Or you can be the ruthless tyrannical dictator of a third world country that everyone despises. Let nothing hold you back. And I mean nothing. Not even the end of the world.
That's just it though. That's what's so fascinating about the human mind and humans in general. What sets us apart from animals with less intellectual thinking than us is that we have the reasoning and hidden potential to put it into action. And make the world anything we want them to be. But it's ultimately up to yourself. You're the only barrier that can stop yourself from doing anything. And you're the cape that can make you fly straight up to the moon, beyond the stars, and into the heavens.
There are just some things in life that happen to you for a reason. Maybe I crashed and burned so hard this semester because I needed to learn the biggest lesson of all: not being afraid of failure. If I came to terms with my own fear of failing, there was nothing to lose. And nothing to hold myself back.
Don't ever tell you someone that you can't do something. Screw adversity. It will always be there to kick you down the stairs, but God or whatever religious entity you believe in, gave you the will power, strength, and physical limbs of legs, and arms to push yourself through any given situation. Nothing is impossible. Everything is achievable.
You just have to believe.
Good Night everyone.
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